Sunday, April 26, 2015

how to eat pussy

Hey, I have a lot of respect for all you guys who like to eat pussy because there are too few of you out there. And I’m not the only woman who says this. Furthermore, some of you guys who are giving it the old college try are not doing too well, so maybe this little lesson will help you out.

When a woman finds a man who gives good head, she’s found a treasure she’s not going to let go of too quickly. This is one rare customer and she knows it. She won’t even tell her girlfriends about it or that guy will become the most popular man in town. So, remember, most guys can fuck, and those who can usually do it satisfactorily, but the guy who gives good head, he’s got it made.

The Pussy-Licking-Guide for evolved people in 15 magical steps

#1: Tell her she is beautiful and mean it.

Most women are shy about their bodies. Even if you’ve got the world’s most gorgeous woman in bed with you, she’s going to worry about how you like her body. Tell her it’s beautiful, tell her which parts you like best, tell her anything, but get her to trust you enough to let you down between her legs.

#2 Stop and appreciate her unique flower

Now stop and look at what you see. Beautiful, isn’t it? There is nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. I know. I’ve seen plenty of them. They come in all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside like a little girl’s cunnie and some have thick luscious lips that come out to greet you. Some are nested in brushes of fur and others are covered with transparent fuzz. Appreciate your woman’s unique qualities and tell her what makes her special.

#3 Women are more verbal: Talk to her beautiful pussy

Women are a good deal more verbal than men, especially during love-making. They also respond more to verbal love, which means, the more you talk to her, the easier it will be to get her off. So all the time you’re petting and stroking her beautiful pussy, talk to her about it.

#4 Lick her outer lips, inner lips and find her clit

Now look at it again. Gently pull the lips apart and look at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. Now spread the tops of her pussy up until you can find her clit. Women have clits in all different sizes, just like you guys have different sized cocks. It doesn’t mean a thing as far as her capacity for orgasm. All it means is more of her is hidden underneath her foreskin.

#5 Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet

Whenever you touch a woman’s pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or moisten it with juices from inside her. Be sure, by all means, to wet it before you touch her clit because it doesn’t have any juices of it’s own and it’s extremely sensitive. Your finger will stick to it if it’s dry and that hurts. But you don’t want to touch her clit anyway. You have to work up to that. Before she becomes aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.

#6 Tease her & approach her pussy slowly

Approach her pussy slowly. Women, even more so than men, love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of your tongue. Come dangerously close to her pussy, then float away. Make her anticipate it.

#7 Play with her

Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy. Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit without pressing down on it to further excite her. After you’ve done this to the point where your lady is bucking up from her seat and she’s straining to get more of you closer to her, then put your lips right on top of her slit.

#8 Kiss her, gently, then harder

Kiss her, gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy flesh. Gently spread her legs more with your hands. Everything you do with a woman you’re about to eat must be done gently.

#9 Tongue-fuck her

Tongue-fuck her. This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she wants some attention given to her clit. Check it out. See if her clit has gotten hard enough to peek out of it’s covering. If so, lick it. If you can’t see it, it might still be waiting for you underneath. So bring your tongue up the top of her slit and feel for her clit. You may barely experience it’s presence. But even if you can’t feel the tiny pearl, you can make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her skin.

#10 Work her tip of the iceberg

Gently pull the pussy lips away and flick your tongue against the clit, hood covered or not. Do this quickly. This should cause her legs to shudder. When you sense she’s getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into your mouth.

Start to suck gently and watch your lady’s face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she digs it, suck even harder. Go with her. If she lifts her pelvis into the air with the tension of her rising orgasm, move with her, don’t fight her. Hang on, and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don’t let go. That’s what she’ll be saying too: ‘Don’t stop. Don’t ever stop!’There’s a reason for that, most men stop too soon. Just like with cock sucking, this is something worth learning about and worth learning to do well. I know a man who’s a lousy fuck, simply lousy, but he can eat pussy like nobody I know and he never has trouble getting a date. Girls are falling all over him.#11 Finger-fuck her with TWO fingers

But back to your pussy eating session…There’s another thing you can do to intensify your woman’s pleasure. You can finger-fuck her while she’s enjoying your clit-licking talents. Before, during or after. She’ll really like it. In addition to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you rub up against when you’re fucking her. Well, since your cock is pretty far away from your mouth, your fingers will have to do the fucking.

Take two fingers. One is too skinny and three is too wide and therefore can’t get deep enough. Make sure they’re wet so you don’t irritate her skin. Slide them inside, slowly at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with them rhythmically. Speed up only when she does. Listen to her breathing.She’ll let you know what to do. If you’re sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you’re giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she’s getting high on this. If there’s any doubt, check her out for symptoms.#12 Get to know her orgasmic symptoms to become even better

Each woman is unique.

You may have one who’s nipples get hard when she’s excitedYour girl might flush red orbegin to tremble.

Get to know her symptoms and you’ll be a more sensitive lover.

#13 Don’t let go of her clit when she starts to orgasm – The Multi-Orgasmic Woman

When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven’s sakes, don’t let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now.

If you play your cards right, you’ll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman stays excited for a full hour after she’s had an orgasm. Do you realize the full impact of that information? The potential? One woman was clocked at 56 orgasms at one sitting. Do you know what effect you would have on a woman you gave 56 orgasms to? She’d be yours as long as you wanted her.#14 The cherry on the cake

Some women like to have their man rub and enter their anal section with their finger while they are being eaten out!

#15 After the orgasmic wave: Keep making love to her quietly

The last advice I have for you is this:

After you’ve made her come, made her your slave by giving her the best head she’s ever had, don’t leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she’s come all the way down. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman by nature requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex.

Oral sex can be the most exciting sexual experiences you can have. But it’s what you make it. Take your time, practice often, pay attention to your lover’s signals, and most of all, enjoy yourself.

Now get to it and make your partner smile and love you forever!

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Remember That All Vaginas Are Different

And different vaginas like different things, which is why it’s hard for us to give you any across-the-board advice. It doesn’t actually matter if you’ve gone down on zero vaginas or 103 — when you’re going down on someone for the first time, it’s as if you’ve never gone down on anyone before. Everyone likes totally different sensations in bed, so everyone starts from the beginning when faced with a new vagina. Your inexperience here is a complete non-issue in terms of skill. (The only rule you need to know ahead of time is to be careful about where your teeth end up!) Sure, people take some tips and tricks with them from partner to partner, but in the end communication will win.

Talk About It

Mouths aren’t just for oral sex! They’re for talking, too. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying things like:

“Just FYI, I’ve never gone down on a vagina before.”“I’m nervous because the only thing I’ve ever licked consistently is a tootsie pop. But I’m really into doing this with you.”“I feel scared that you’re not gonna like what I do going down on you, so just grab my hair and put me in the right spot if I’m not there already!”

Be clear with your partner that you’re totally into feedback in the moment. As in, “a little to the left,” “harder” or “keep doing that.” Remember: harder is not always better. It depends entirely on the person, but don’t assume that hard and fast always wins the race ’til you hear it from your partner.

For the vagina-havers who are receiving this great oral sex — I hear a lot of people feel weird about giving feedback because they think they’re being selfish or making sex too much about them. First: your body is involved. This sex is partially about you. Second, feedback is about your partner, not just about you. Feedback makes people feel comfortable while they’ve got their mouth on your vulva. Tell them when they’ve hit the spot, or if they’re being too soft or too hard with you. It’s not just about you getting what you want — it’s about your partner getting what they want, too.

Most of the time, my advice revolves around communication. But I do recognize that sometimes practical tips need to exist, because confidence. It’s easier to begin a road trip with a map, even if someone’s going to give you a few directions as you go. So, here are just a few tips and tricks:

Use Your Whole Mouth…

It’s fun to tease your partner by lightly flicking the tip of your tongue over the whole area, just barely tickling her clit and tracing both sides of her vagina, to get warmed up (or to take an intensity break). But there’s a lot more to our mouths than the tip of the tongue! Your tongue is three dimensional and has many different surfaces. You can lightly suck on things. You’ve got lips, too! Why should you use your whole mouth, you ask?

many vaginas look like this (via The Wikimedia Commons)

The clitoris is more than just the visible part we think of as “the button.” The darker pink bits in the above picture are the internal parts of the clitoris, and they also respond to sensation. Using just the tip of your tongue isn’t going to reach all that wonderful goodness — show the rest of that structure some love! Keep in mind that even things that aren’t part of the clitoris can be pleasurable for your hookup/partner/person.

Try a bunch of different tactics: flatten your tongue and lick the whole area (like an ice cream cone!), give hard pressure with your tongue, suck on the clitoris (or suck on the clitoral hood while flicking your tongue against the clit), press against different parts of the vulva with your lips or go in circles around the clit with your tongue. You can also tease the vaginal opening with your tongue, or get really wild and dip your tongue all the way in.

Sometimes there’s a knee-jerk tendency to respond to omg-I’m-about-to-come noises by starting to do what you were doing harder and faster. She’s excited and gripping your hand, you’re excited and gripping her thigh, and naturally you keep upping the ante as excitement builds. Every person is different, of course, but in general the best thing to do is exactly what you were doing to get your partner “almost there” in the first place, instead of switching or going faster/harder — which actually requires a lot of concentration and focus. Like pretty much all of your concentration and focus.

…Unless Your Hookup Wants Something Specific

Experimentation is super fun, and experimenting with different sensations and different parts of your mouth is part of the awesome. But, as you’ve already told your hookup/partner/person that you want feedback in the moment, be sure to listen to that feedback. It can sometimes be hard to pull away from something you’re trying, but unless teasing is part of the game, remember to focus on the bits that feel good to that particular vagina.

Are We Supposed to Make Noises?

There is no “supposed to” in the bedroom department, and this is no different. But “they” say that making noises like you’re eating a delicious ice cream sundae (i.e., humming) can feel sensational for the vulva that you’re sexing up. Like anything else, it works for some people and not for others. Unless your hookup/partner/person asks for something different, I usually default to my acting training here. And no, that doesn’t mean “pretend to make porn noises.” It actually means that there’s no need to react in any way you wouldn’t normally react. If you’re going to make noises, they should be your truth noises — the ones you really really want to make in the moment, or the ones you can’t keep in. Making a noise like you’re eating the best damn sandwich in the world just because you want them to know you’re having fun, though, might ring false to your hookup/partner/person.

Pillows: They Help

I don’t know what happened, but all of a sudden I got old enough that my neck hurts when I put it in strange positions. Such as that my neck winds up in during vagina-style oral sex. I resisted the aid of pillows for a while, thinking it would be unsexy to ask people to lift their butts up so I could put a pillow underneath them before going to town. What is less sexy, though, is ceasing mouth-to-vulva contact because you have the equivalent of a charlie horse in your neck. If you’re doing things traditionally, sliding a pillow under the receiver’s bum is a great way to raise their hips up so that you don’t have to gumby into bizarre positions. If you’re going with a less traditional position, apply that same ingenuity to other objects in the room. Using pillows or furniture to get the perfect position is a great way to go. Or you can have them sit on your face if your neck gets tired.

Turn Your Oral Presentation Into A Multimedia One

With your partner/hookup/person’s permission, you don’t have to do ONLY ORAL SEX. There are all sorts of other things you can do while you are orally sexing — fingers in the vaginal opening, fingers in the anus, butt plug, g-spot vibrator, nipple pinching and outer-thigh slapping.

I bet if I challenge y’all to think of  stuff that pairs with oral sex like wine pairs with a good meal, y’all can come up with at least 50 things to do while your tongue/mouth is doing its thang. In fact yes, I do challenge you to do that. What are 50 other things you can do in bed while your mouth is on a vulva? Go.

But What If It’s That Time of the Month?

I advocate for an enthusiasm much like the following:

Bodily fluids are bodily fluids, and if you’re fluid bonded and STI tested, period fluid is absolutely fine to get all over your mouth and face. If you are not fluid bonded and STI tested, please consider making your sex safer by using dental dams and gloves regardless of the time of the month. And if the person you intend to go down on says she does not want to because she’s on her period, that’s okay too. Just assure this lovely human that you’re totally cool with it, either way. Some people just don’t feel sexy on their periods, and I recommend watching a Netflix marathon with a cute hot water bottle until a sexier time comes around.

Remember: The Person Giving Oral Sex Should Like It Too

You are also having sex here. Which means you get to have a (rol)licking good time as well. If your hookup/partner/person is unsure of what they want or down for exploring or says something to the effect of  “if your mouth is on my vulva, I’m having a good time,” then figure out what feels good on your mouth. That’s as good a way as any way to figure out new ways to interact with a vulva — perhaps you really like the way lightly sucking the clit feels? Cool, do that! If your partner says that’s not their thing, do another thing that feels good on your mouth. As it was written in the Autostraddle guide toHaving Lesbian Sex for the First Time, “your body was born knowing how to have sex like it knows how to eat and knows how to walk.” You might find if you stop thinking so hard, a lot of this could come naturally!

So go forth, reader, and put your mouth on a vulva. Don’t let anxiety hold you back — you’re gonna do just fine.


different lube...what are they good for?!?

1. Water-Based Lubricant: The most common, the easiest to wash off, and the most sex toy-friendly. Water based lubes are best used with silicone or jelly toys, so most vibrators, dildos, and yes, fleshlights. It is also condom-friendly, if you are planning on using a condom over your sex toy. Water-based lube is most often body-friendly, but try and score one that is glycerin-free (just in case your inner bits are sensitive to it). Also, if you are into, you know, earthy awesomeness, there are vegan/earth-friendly/natural lubes that fall underneath this category.

2. Silicone-Based Lubricants: If you like taking your sex toys to the shower, silicone lube is the way to go. Silicone lube is water-resistant, though harder to clean. It requires a longer, soapier cleaning and, it can only be used with certain toys. No silicone lube on a silicone or jelly toy, and definitely no condoms – it’s the quickest way to degrade your sex toy or your latex. Did you know that silicone bonds to silicone? This happens because it is made out of microscopic glass balls. This causes the silicone to break down, causing a gummy breeding ground for bacteria. Of course, there are a few compatible silicone lubes that can go with certain grade silicone toys, like some of these bad boys.

3. Oil-Based Lubricant: Oil is tricky because anything petroleum based should really only be used for external masturbation or strictly anal play only. These lubes should be used with non-jelly, non-plastic, non-silicone toys (so basically stainless steel), and it definitely shouldn’t be used with latex. If you thought silicone broke things down, oil will blow your mind by basically eating through your toys AND on top of that, it messes up the pH of your lovely vagina, causing an environment that is ripe for bacterial infection. Seriously, oil-based lube is the ideal lube for anal play with a stainless steel toy.

keeping ur sex toys clean...

1. Silicone Toys: (Non-porous) God bless, silicone toys are like the Honda of the sex toy world. Clean up is usually nothing more than a quick wash with a mild, fragrance-free soap in lukewarm water. Pat dry with a towel, and storeBjorn sans batteries if they have them. A few camps argue that you can boil silicone sex toys on a low boil for ten minutes, but since most come with batteries and boiling is also argued to break down silicone, I say stick with a wash.

2. Jelly Toys: (Porous) Compared to their silicone sisters, jelly toys are a bit more problematic and require a thorough cleaning, mostly due to the fact that they are so, so, so porous and can’t be completely disinfected. Give it a warm wash with soap, and to be on a safer side, try a sex toy cleanerthat can give it that extra-clean oomph. Personally speaking, I think jelly toys should be avoided due to the fact that what’s in them is often more harmful than the stuff that ends up on the outside of them(but you know, the combo of the two ain’t great).

3. Glass Toys: (Non-porous). Wash with lukewarm water and mild soap. Pat dry.

4. Soft vinyl/rubber/latex/hard plastic: (porous).Again, a warm wash with soap, and a recommended sex toy cleaner. Make sure to get every trace of soap off because these toys can absorb the soap and not only degrade the toy, but cause future irritation to any mucus membrane, especially if you are choosing to not use condoms on your toys.

5. Pyrex: (non-porous). Pyrex is great because it can be cleaned multiple ways – you can wash it with the soapy water method or you can actually boil it. Hell, you can put it in the dishwasher with your wine glasses and spaghetti pots. Delicious.

6. Cyberskin: (porous). Cyberskin toys are a little bit more off the beaten path, but they are gaining in popularity. However, like jelly toys, they are extremely porous, and can’t ever be disinfected. There is also the same claim that like jelly, they are made of chemicals that are not safe for exposure to your mucus membranes. Nonetheless, use soapy water, a sex toy cleaner, and air dry. Some folks recommend using cornstarch powder as a way to keep them from getting sticky, but you have to make that call. FYI – please do not use talcum powder if you plan on putting it back up in you.

7. Stainless Steel: (non-porous). Like pyrex, stainless steel can be cleaned multiple ways. Wash it , boil it, dishwasher it, hell you can even soak it. Stainless steel offers an array of cleaning options.

I stole this from an article I came across @ taking-care-of-sex-toys

Thursday, April 9, 2015

pure romance g money

Back years ago when i was 18 and just started having sex i quicky became addicted to it. And i had a bf that would go to prison ALOT. So i discovered sex toys my first one was a doc johnson one that was way to big like 12inches and thick. So i got this baby it has veins like the real thing which i like. Its made from a decent silcone blend and it glows in the dark which is what attracted me to it. Im pretty sure its like 3speeds but i always use the highest power speed so to me its 1speed. Its pretty decent. Was my faviorte toy for years. Might still be my fave if I knew where it was. Good memorys!! Find one that attracts you!! like this one attracted me. Perfect size, texture, color, speed, + glow in tha dark  = FUN!!!

Tuesday, April 7, 2015

my favorite lube...durex massage and play

This is my favorite. I have the purple one. I got it for massages instead of using babyoil. It works well enough for that, but gets a little sticky to touch when starting to dry.
My bf and I recently tried it as lubricant. It worked wonderfully, was cool going on, and was slippery, but not overly so, it also kind of had a natural feeling to it. It worked perfect for our deep rough sex that I enjoy. It lasted until we were done.
Later on that day, I decided to perform oral on my bf and I tasted something sweet and yummy. I had been handling marijuana and at first I thought damn! That new bud must be tasty...because what else could it have been!?! I was stumped because bud Im pretty sure could never taste like that, or that good and sweet. Haha. Duh!!! Then I remembered we had used the lube earlier and realized that was it!!! Boy did it make oral after vaginal sex taste delicious. Totally masks the vaginal smell and taste.
My only problem with this product is the next day, I was rubbed a little raw inside of my vaginal lips from public hair due to the way we rub/grind when deep inside, and so the lube caused that raw spot to burn momentarily. But besides that this lube is perfect!!! I rub a little on my clit and inside my vag lips before my bf goes down on me, to make it tasty for him!!! I also use it when giving my bf a bj/hand job combo to add flavor and lubrication (instead of just using spit!) And of course it is great for sex and it makes me want him to pull put and put it in my mouth when he is cummin, because it is that good!!

Buy it now @ love honey and like my review my membername is shine69

my first to cum

So for some women like me orgasms are just a myth, a fantasy. I read about them and see them in porns. But they don't exist in my world. Until I started dating my newest boyfriend he is 40 so the oldest man I have been with. We had hooked up 8yrs ago but then his cock hurt me didn't really please me, and I was uncomfortable receiving oral sex. Now two children, 4 bfs, a a handfull of hookups later, here I am. I called him one night from the bar and went home with him and had the most passionate, mind blowing, pussy tingling at the thought sex!!! And so it became a regular thing and then a relationship. For the first time ever the thought of havimg an orgasm became a real possibility. I would feel the intense buildup of pleasure, and I would fight it. It would make my legs lock and I felt like feeling of wanting to pee and so I would fight it hold back and have him stop. One night I was black out drunk and I remember falling asleep in a puddle, but that's all. I guess I came, but my bf didn't count it because I didn't remember, since that day it became his goal to make me cum. "Pee on my face, I don't care, cum, let it go", he says. Haha. Finally a few nights ago i drank enough to be able to let go and enjoy myself, and still remember! And it was amazing, usually he fingers my gspot the come hither move, while licking my clit with hard pressure. That's what always almost gets me there. But that night he licked just right and I told him, " mmm yahh like that, right there". When that intense feeling came on I at first regretted telling him he was on the spot, and wanted to fight it, but I also wanted so bad to finally come and so I let go and it was amazing. My body twitched and i was laughing and whithering around and i felt the cum leaking down my butt crack. So I had my first clitoral orgasm! He all fist pumped the air in accomplishment! Winner!! Next try we got to do a gspot one!

My advice to you gals that cannot cum...

  • Find a partner who is experienced. Or learn together watch videos, read, ask questions, take classes together. 
  • Be in love and have passion 
  • Ur best friend may become ur best lover (mine is)
  • A partner who cares and wants you to cum and puts ur pleasure 1st before his own.
  • Masterbate. . .chicks who do can cum they know what works they learn and can teach there partner, chicks who don't like myself don't cum. I recently started and boy I opened a new world of fun!
  • Learn to love yourself
  • Figure out what feels good, and speak!! Let your partner know. Right the left..harder..softer..bury ur face in it...tounge fuck me...deeper..ect.
  • Focus on the sensations...nothing else matters. 
  • Have fun and enjoy it.

Monday, April 6, 2015

who am I

So I am new to this. I am a 27yr old, who's dream has always been to work for a sex toy company/store. I have always been interested in learning the most I could about sex since the age of 14. Before I even started doing it. I wanted to make sure I knew how for when the time came. So I read books, lots of books. I gained knowledge. Now that I'm older and I have 10yrs experience +tons of books smarts, I figured I might as well start blogging to help others with my knowledge by sharing and answering questions. I also would love to help others to shop smart and help them to find and buy the best quality sex toys, instead of the junk I first bought when I started out on my sexventure.
So any one have any questions me or my man will do our best to give you the best most honest nonjudgmental advice!!!! If we don't know the answer we will find it , and learn together!! even if it means experimenting on ourselves, for the most honest answer!
I can't wait to start my adventure in becoming a sexpert!